Mama’s Wisdom


Message Title: Mama’s Wisdom
Words of Wisdom
Season: Ordinary Time
Main Text:
Proverbs 31:10-31
Scripture Reading: James 3:13 – 4:3, 7-8;
RCL Scripture: Proverbs 31:10-31; Jeremiah 11:18-20; Psalm 1; Psalm 54; James 3:13 – 4:3, 7-8a; Mark 9:30-37
Focus: A mother reflects to her son about a wise partner.
Function: To celebrate the wise people in our lives and to pursue their wisdom.
Other Notes:

SCRIPTURE READING: James 3:13 – 4:3, 7-8; 13 Are any of you wise and understanding? Show that your actions are good with a humble lifestyle that comes from wisdom. 14 However, if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, then stop bragging and living in ways that deny the truth. 15 This is not the wisdom that comes down from above. Instead, it is from the earth, natural and demonic. 16 Wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there is disorder and everything that is evil. 17 What of the wisdom from above? First, it is pure, and then peaceful, gentle, obedient, filled with mercy and good actions, fair, and genuine. 18 Those who make peace sow the seeds of justice by their peaceful acts. What is the source of conflict among you? What is the source of your disputes? Don’t they come from your cravings that are at war in your own lives? You long for something you don’t have, so you commit murder. You are jealous for something you can’t get, so you struggle and fight. You don’t have because you don’t ask. You ask and don’t have because you ask with evil intentions, to waste it on your own cravings. …Therefore, submit to God. Resist the devil, and he will run away from you. Come near to God, and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners. Purify your hearts, you double-minded.


  1. Audience Engagement: What silly habits did your grandparent’s have?
    1. Of my four grandparents, my mom’s mom was the one that didn’t have super silly habits. Though I suppose food would be the closest—I remember falling in love with saltine crackers and frosting because of my Grandma Hazel.
  2. Hazel Warner—
    1. As a child, I never understood why my Grandma Hazel seemed so serious. Unfortunately for me, it wasn’t until her death, when I sat and listened to my aunts and uncle share memories of her life that I truly learned about my grandmother.
    2. Grandma Hazel was the oldest child of 6 of my Earl & Ethyl Green. Their family was always tight on money. In marriage, my grandmother had 6 kids of her own. She and my Grandpa Dick had to work hard to make their dollars stretch.
    3. My mom recollected how Grandma Hazel made birthdays and Christmas special for the kids by giving them their necessities as gifts—new clothes or snow boots as gifts rather than just things to purchase. They felt spoiled while my grandparents, felt like they were providing necessities.
    4. Through their stories they learned that all of them had been given the same pep talk by my grandmother.
      1. “Always be able to take care of yourself”–She wanted her girls to be able to be independent and not financially stuck.

TRANSITION: Our text for today reminds me of my grandmother Hazel’s wisdom for her daughters. Let’s hear this mother’s wisdom for her son.

MAIN TEXT: Proverbs 31:10-31 10A competent wife, how does one find her? Her value is far above pearls. 11Her husband entrusts his heart to her, and with her he will have all he needs. 12She brings him good and not trouble all the days of her life. 13She seeks out wool and flax; she works joyfully with her hands. 14She is like a fleet of merchant ships, bringing food from a distance. 15She gets up while it is still night, providing food for her household, even some for her female servants. 16She surveys a field and acquires it; from her own resources, she plants a vineyard. 17She works energetically; her arms are powerful. 18She realizes that her trading is successful; she doesn’t put out her lamp at night. 19She puts her hands to the spindle; her palms grasp the whorl. 20She reaches out to the needy; she stretches out her hands to the poor. 21She doesn’t fear for her household when it snows, because they are all dressed in warmclothes. 22She makes bedspreads for herself; fine linen and purple are her clothing. 23Her husband is known in the city gates when he sits with the elders of the land. 24She makes garments and sells them; she supplies sashes to traders. 25Strength and honor are her clothing; she is confident about the future. 26Her mouth is full of wisdom; kindly teaching is on her tongue. 27She is vigilant over the activities of her household; she doesn’t eat the food of laziness. 28Her children bless her; her husband praises her: 29 “Many women act competently, but you surpass them all!” 30Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 31Let her share in the results of her work; let her deeds praise her in the city gates.


  1. Reminder: This book of Proverbs in chapter 1 was attributed to Solomon. He was writing to his son about wisdom and how to live a fruitful/fulfilling life.
    1. This book ends with wisdom from a mother to her son. Recognizing wisdom in a woman. God’s wisdom is not just for men. God’s wisdom leads to fulfillment for all who pursue.
  2. Wisdom represented through a woman’s life
    1. Business woman – wool, flax, fields, trading
    2. Home maker –providing food, clothing, bedding
    3. Leader – with the servants, with her words, her projects, children
    4. Strong—powerful
    5. Partner- celebrates her husband, support each other


  1. Eshet Chayil (eh-shet hai-yeal) – Woman of Valor
    1. Source:
  2. Celebrating the wisdom of your faith family tree
    1. (Tomorrow is Fern Nash’s visitation & Tuesday is her funeral.)

APPLICATION: To celebrate the wise people in our lives and to pursue their wisdom.

    1. how to do you become at something? (athlete, doctor, baker, etc)
    2. How do you become a better Christian?
  2. Ways to gain knowledge in community
    1. Accountability partners- iron sharpens iron (prov 27:17)
    2. Mentoring—not about having all the answers.
      1. Gaining wisdom
      2. Sharing wisdom

CONCLUSION: I gained knowledge through my parents, my grandparents, and my faith family tree. We all have a chance to share our wisdom and grow as a church & community. I invite you into the growing experience.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s